Understanding sexual abusers on a deeper level
Why would adults sexually abuse a child?
Victims of sexual abuse at times tend to become abusers themselves because it feels familiar to them. Feelings of shame and anger, which naturally happen as a consequence of the abuse, can become mixed up with sexual feelings, leading to confusion in the person who experienced the abuse. They make an attempt to heal By becoming an abuser, and try to undo the abuse by taking the opposite, seemingly more powerful, position. They feel difficult to enter a mutually loving, respectful relationship.
Abusers are not only victims of sexual abuse but also physical & emotional abuse.In reaction to experiences of abuse, neglect, betrayal and powerlessness, they may have attempted to find feelings of power and control over others – including sexual power over children.
In some cases child sexual abuse is caused by the abuser, during a particular stressful time, like the loss of a marriage or job, bankruptcy, or the death of a spouse, close friend or family member.
The use of alcohol, use of child sexual pornography, extreme stress or other circumstance that contributed to their “giving up’ on resisting their sexual fantasies or impulses toward children.
Victims of sexual abuse at times tend to become abusers themselves because it feels familiar to them. Feelings of shame and anger, which naturally happen as a consequence of the abuse, can become mixed up with sexual feelings, leading to confusion in the person who experienced the abuse. They make an attempt to heal By becoming an abuser, and try to undo the abuse by taking the opposite, seemingly more powerful, position. They feel difficult to enter a mutually loving, respectful relationship.
Abusers are not only victims of sexual abuse but also physical & emotional abuse.In reaction to experiences of abuse, neglect, betrayal and powerlessness, they may have attempted to find feelings of power and control over others – including sexual power over children.
In some cases child sexual abuse is caused by the abuser, during a particular stressful time, like the loss of a marriage or job, bankruptcy, or the death of a spouse, close friend or family member.
The use of alcohol, use of child sexual pornography, extreme stress or other circumstance that contributed to their “giving up’ on resisting their sexual fantasies or impulses toward children.
Some adolescents, who are dealing with intense sexual desires, choose wrong channels to express it and sexually misuse a younger or more vulnerable child.
Whatsoever none of these possible reasons (or any others) can excuse the sexual use or abuse of a child. Nor do they diminish the negative impacts that such an experience can have on the person who has been sexually used or abused.Sexual abuse is strongly condemned.
Swathi Priya. P
Counselling Psychologist
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