How to encourage frienship in childhood? and the psychology behind it.

How to encourage friendship in childhood? & the psychology behind it.

 

All of us need friendship in our life.

Why do we want to form bonds?

Let us start over an analysis of the Psychology behind making friends.

 

Maslow's hierarchy of needs is a motivational theory in psychology comprising a five-level model of human needs, by Psychologist Abraham Maslow in 1943.

 

The primary need of every individual is 

1.    physiological (need for water, food, and sex) and

2.    safety needs (the desire of humans for shelter & security) .Once it has been fulfilled, comes 

3.    Love and belongingness needs 

4.    self-esteem needs (self-respect, status & recognition) and 

5.    Self-actualization (to be fully alive and to find meaning in life). 

 

Love and belongingness, is a social need and involves interpersonal relationships. This motivates behavior to form friendship, intimacy, trust, acceptance, receiving and giving affection and love.

 That's why we like being part of a group (family, friends, work).

 In childhood, establishing relationships with other children is one of the major developmental tasks. Friendship beginning in this stage, can help children, feel good about themselves, build self-confidence- and help the child adapt more easily to environments .

 

As parents, teach your children to:      

 

·       Welcome others with a smile and greet saying ‘hello’.

·       take turns while playing, able to wait for what they want

·       include other children’s ideas in play

·       being share their toys , being willing to help others

·       understand how other children may be feeling

·       use words to describe their feelings and thoughts

·       play outdoor games, role play heroes (historic leaders, Professionally successful people, sportsmen so on)

·       spend time making up rules for their play as they start to learn about the social rules (what to do & what not to do) in their society. 

  

DON’TS

·      Don’t compare your child with other children. S/he is unique in her/his own way.

·      Don’t talk ill or put down your child in front of other children.

·      Do not allow your child to watch TV. It is absolutely ok if you don’t have TV at home. Many movies induce wrong ideas about relationships- Including certain cartoon Channels & the dialogues in it.

·      Child role models the way you treat your friends. Please keep a watch over it.

 

Note to housewives: Don’t cut out your friends circle once you are married and have families. Stay in touch with your friends & socialise it will help you to stay happy and healthy.

 

Swathi Priya. P

Counselling Psychologist

www.mindmake-upclinic.com

 

Comments

  1. Amrit15 March 2022 at 05:13

    Absolutely love the content that you share with us, it is so easy to understand and provide knowledge as well, thank you so very much for sharing such content. Looking forward to read your other post.

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