A very disturbing incident of sexual harassment

‘Ungaluku vandha ratham adithavanuku vandha thakali chutney ah?’

Dear friends I want to share a very disturbing incident with you which happened yesterday.

Myself and my husband were travelling by train from Chennai to Coimbatore. A youngster was seated before us and was very busy with his mobile phone. My husband by chance noticed him taking pictures and videos of the woman who was seated on the left side, and showed what this guy did to me. That woman was sitting along with her 2 little children. She dozed off in sometime. This guy took note of it and started zooming and recording her, through his cell phone camera as her saree moved a little away.

My husband immediately raised his voice and questioned that guy on what he was doing.  That guy couldn’t face my husband and he rushed into the restroom. My husband alerted the woman and others about this guy’s behavior. There were many other men seated next to us. As soon as this guy came out of the restroom that woman, myself and my husband cornered him, we wanted to handover this guy to the railway police. By now that guy had already deleted the pictures/videos he had taken, probably this was the reason he escaped to the restroom. He couldn’t face us and was unable to justify what he did. He slowly slipped out and got down from the train.

I got so furious and annoyed, on why all the other people sitting along with us never came to protect the woman nor raise their voice while all this happened. None of them came forward to question that guy. All of them infact have families.

After that guy got down from the train, they started talking about the guy’s bad behavior, women safety blah blah blah…. Such a shame on them. If a mistake takes place in your presence, and you pretend to ignore it, it means that you too are taking part in it.

This is completely an incident of sexual harassment. What much of self help can she do, she is travelling with two little children. All those men who were dumb, when the helpless woman was in trouble are also culprits. According to me they are equally as bad as the guy who harassed her.

I have met a lot of gentlemen, who are protective of woman and children in my work place and personal life too. Yes they do exist. But there are such socially irresponsible and cold people too. Only if all of us change our attitude and raise voice against such crimes, the number of crimes against women will come down.

I specially want to mention about a person in the above narrated incident who went and stood next to his wife to safeguard her, when the whole incident took place.

‘Ungaluku vandha ratham adithavanuku vandha thakali chutney ah?’


Swathi Priya. P

 

 

Comments

  1. Jeevan Babu9 November 2021 at 05:42

    Great job. Every men has to come forward like this to protect women.

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

What is Career Counselling for school students?

Career counselling  for school students will help your child to take a decision on what group (subjects) to choose in std 11 & which course to go for after 12thstd. We need to start preparing your child to think about his career goals from std 9 itself, for career choice. What will happen in career counselling? Career counsellor will talk to the student about themselves- their strengths, blindspots, special abilities, their dreams- & establish a good rapport. Take up career assessments (paper pencil work): 1.Know your aptitude (knowledge), 2.what you are interested in?- your child must first know what s/he interested in & 3.what kind of career suites your personality.(every person is different- introverts (sit separately & work, in laptop or in research- book reference) some are extroverts(want lot of people around, out going, indulge in teamwork& some people like travelling a lot). Discuss the test scoring. Parents too can discuss. Career counsellor
Read more

How to deal with an adolescent in love?

Most of you who have adolescent kids, might get shocked when you know that your child is in love, as you least expected it. But you should accept the fact that your child is growing. My strong request to parents is, kindly don’t frighten your child by crying to her/him or to other family members, thinking that s/he has done something very wrong or put the family prestige down. Don’t embarrass your child by sharing about her/his love to your neighbor or relatives and asking them to advice her/him. There are chances for them to talk ill about the child behind your back. Don’t talk irrelevant stuff like ‘I have spent so much on your education & daily expenses, but you have put me down by falling in love’. You might end up making the child feel guilty. Don’t follow them on social media.   Don’t mess-up things by fighting with the other child/child’s parents (with whom your child is in love with). Don’t threaten or blackmail the child by saying statements like ‘I will kill myself
Read more

Adolescents in love- dealing strategies for parents

  Most of you who have adolescent (pathin paruvathinar) kids, might get shocked when you know that your child is in love, as you least expected it. Whatever said & done. You should accept the fact that your child is growing up. What are few things you should do? 1.Don’t frighten your child by crying to her/him or to other family members, thinking that s/he has done something very wrong or put the family prestige down. 2.Don’t embarrass your child by sharing about her/his love to your neighbor or relatives and asking them to advice her/him. There are chances for them to talk ill about the child behind your back. 3.Don’t talk irrelevant stuff like ‘I have spent so much on your education & daily expenses, but you have put me down by falling in love’. You might end up making the child feel guilty. 4.Don’t follow them on social media.   5.Don’t mess-up things by fighting with the other child/child’s parents (with whom your child is in love with). 6.Don’t threaten or
Read more